Today, emails are an inseparable part of our lives. I share with you some of the most memorable emails(forwards) I have received.

Thursday, May 1, 2008

Amma!! Yaaraene andaroo, nee nannaa devaru

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Its written so beautifully that you might believe this email is what I treasure. You are forgiven for making a wrong guess. I really appreciated the write-up, but I still can't understand why I didn't forward it all to my friends.

Instead, I sent it only to one person. I really don't know yet why I sent it only to her. Unfortunately, while forwarding the mail, I added a few comments of my own. I intended to write about my opinion of working mothers, but foolishly keyed in "working women". I wrote about why the next generation of our children may not be able to relate to this story. I have only contempt for a lot of women's rights activists ( but not women!!) and it was evident in my words. In her reply, she really appreciated the presentation, but probably hadn't bothered to read my comments. The next day, she replied back blasting me for my chauvinistic comments. I went into a defensive mode, partly apologising, partly correcting my comments and greatly defending my statements. While drafting my defence, I took my own example (as I do many a times), and that was the first time I saw a lot of events and situations in my life from my parents' perspective. Then, unknowingly, my respect and love for them had turned into great adoration, admiration and even reverence.

It's inappropriate to put our conversation in a public space. I will forever remember the contents of the mails following up this forward e-mail. Nor can I forget the lady who opened my eyes. But, sooner or later, I will post my opinion on working mothers.

Remembering Avva

The first time I read this mail, I enjoyed it a lot, just like you. A minute or two later, I re-read it only to be reminded of Avva (Telugu for grandmother). She had once expressed a very contradictory opinion.

One afternoon in mid-August 2005, we were invited for an inter-caste marriage. After the invitees left, in an attempt to annoy my 80 year old Avva, I started thinking aloud about me marrying someone outside the caste. Avva wasn't too affected, nor was my mother. I continued it enough for my mother to make a foolish (sorry mom) comment, that she will leave the house if it ever happened. Irritated, Avva (Unknowingly, my mother achieved what I set out for) shouted at my mother telling her she had a right to stay in the house and in such an eventuality (of me marrying outside the acceptable castes), I was the one who should get out of the house. Knowing that she was irritated by this talk, I continued to ask if my sister could do the same. Avva thumped "Daughters can marry anyone and get away. I want to be comfortable with whom I live, and therefore I should approve who a son can marry". She had made a very thoughtful, and in my opinion, a logical statement.

Avva had mesmerised a lot of people (including the sender of this mail) with her intelligent talk, extra-ordinary general knowledge and clear black hair. A fortnight after the above incident, she suffered a heart attack and was in ICU for over twelve days. A day after she was moved to the ward, she was off the hospital gown and dressed in a more colourful gown, with hairs combed neatly when her doctor came for a checkup. Being a telugu-ite, he quipped "Yem(emi) Avva, neat-ga ready ayyinaaru?"(Granny, What makes you dress up well?). Avva replied "Please don't get me wrong". A pause and she continued "To impress young and handsome doctors like you!!". Do I need to say that the doctor was floored? That day onwards, he was as much a fan and a grandson of Avva as much as he was her doctor.

Avva, you will live forever in our hearts.

PS: Thanks Nagesha, for reviving some wonderful memories.